Though this post is one that has been up for awhile, I am using it for this week’s TOS Cruise.
In most large families, there are a lot of chores. All of us can become burned out. I have post about our chores before, listing age appropriate chores for our children ages 1-6 and 7-11. You can see our modified MOTH schedule to see how we attempt to stay on track. We also have Daily, Weekly, and Monthly chore lists. However, encouraging children to learn from logical consequences can sometimes be overwhelming, especially when in the turmoil of the issue. I don’t do an allowance, but we do use money for encouragement in a different way. Rather then give my children money for their daily chores, I will pay for an exceptional job, or for going above and beyond.
Now, how I do encourage our children to treat each other kindly and to get their chores done properly and so forth is for them to either pay me if I have to do the chore, or the other person. If they physically hurt another member of our family, they must pay them also.
Each child has a money jar. 
So, do mom and dad. When each child earns money, it goes into their jar. Their jars are kept on a shelf in our kitchen cabinet. When they lose money it goes into the other person’s jar. There is a jar for mom and dad too. 
If we do a chore that had been assigned, we get paid for it. Our jar is used to pay for those special circumstances, and for Mom’s Night Out Java, or for Mom and Dad’s date night. This seems to really be helping curb some of the poor behaviors. I am contemplating starting a payment to me for rudeness and disobedience while I am having a conversation on the phone.
How do you encourage proper work habits and behavior? Do you have any creative discipline ideas to share?
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Wonderful idea! I am going to try it!
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I love, love, love this idea! My son really responds to the whole “moola” idea. I think I’m going to try this. Thanks!
Doreen
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April,
I am not sure it would work for college kids or not…
You could try it…;)
I love your jar and payment idea. Have been comtemplating is since I read it before. It would work for my youngers - does it work with the older kids? I’m going to have two college students home this summer and they need to do their chores and show respect just like the youngers do.
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Mine also understand that chores is just their part in the running of our household. Sometimes we may say..who wants to earn $1…when we have an extra chore/project that needs done (sometimes it is more). I use to give the kids allowance so that we could teach them money management but I haven’t done that in awhile. I should start it up again. Oh…I have also had them pay me if I or anyone else has to do their chore for them. It works
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[...] Betty @ Peace Creek on the Prairie details Chore and Behavior Encouragement in the Large Family~Using Money but not an allowance. [...]
Great post - I agree! Dave Ramsey does too.
We’ve raised our kids this way and seen some good fruit.
We don’t give allowances. We pay for jobs done. That would be over and above their regular daily jobs. If they want money, they do extra work. The kids would probably go for your system. lol
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